Advice on Marriage

  Hello all,

  I'd first like to apologize about the fact that it's been over a month since my last post. This past month has been a pretty eventful one for my wife and I. Between work and other obligations, it has been hard to find time to sit down and write. Thankfully I have found the time once again.

  Well, my wife and I are closing in on our seventh month of being married; talk about a true blessing! Over these seven months we have had little ups and downs in our marriage, just like any other couple out there. But if one thing rings truer than anything else, it's that with faith in Christ we were able to overcome each and every one of them, and will continue to do so.
  I brought up this topic to ask the question: Why? Why were we able to do this? Some would say that it's because we are meant to be together and so everything will work out without any effort, as it is our destiny.
  My wife and I both disagree with this kind of thinking. I am sorry to be the one to break this to everyone, but there is no destined soul-mate out there for you. Although my wife and I do make a great team because we are evenly yoked, we both agree that marriage could have worked between her and another man or me and another woman. Marriage isn't this magical thing that just works itself out. No, marriage is a true blessing that has to be worked at, kept and maintained.

  The other night my wife and I were helping chaperone at one of my mother-in-law's homeschool dances. There I met a young Christian gentleman, who at one of the dances earlier in the year had discovered that Cryslyn and I had recently gotten married. He had approached me seeking relationship advice, and although the question caught me off guard, I did my best to give this young man the best advice I could.
  The biggest piece of advice I can give on marriage is to make it founded on Christ. For any good marriage to work it needs to be centered on Christ. You can look at this like a triangle (pictured below).

  With Christ placed at the top point of your marriage, the two of you will continue to grow closer together while at the same time grow closer to Him. If you are not fixating your sight on the Creator, you as a couple will more than likely look at life from a worldly, carnal perspective. Stating from experience, I personally believe that a marriage founded on Christ will not fail.

 
  Now, onto my next point. In our household my wife and I are partners in our marriage, though not on an equal level. Although we come to each other with decisions and talk things out beforehand, my wife knows that I am the head of the household, as it biblically should be, and she respectfully submits to me as she believes it is her place as a wife, honoring the scriptures as Paul wrote, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body." -Ephesians 5:22-23.
  This does not mean that I make all of the decisions, because if my wife makes a good point or has a better idea then I am more than willing to go with hers. That's where the partnership of marriage comes into play. In our marriage, we as husband and wife are to submit to one another in fear of God.
"Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God."-Ephesians 5:21.

  I've often heard it said that a family that prays together stays together. I'm not sure how much truth there is behind this statement, but I do believe that as a husband and wife you should pray together as well as for each other. Prayer is a surprisingly powerful thing, though as I've said in previous posts, I don't believe that if you pray for something that God will magically give it to you. But praying consistently whether in times of joy or peril is something that is always sure to help in a marriage.

  As you can clearly tell, I have an amazing marriage that I am very happy in. After all, what husband wouldn't be happy when his wife is a God-fearing woman who keeps up our home with a clean and godly environment for me to return to after working out in a fallen world? I'd say that I am a very blessed man. ;)

 Blessings to all. I pray that someone was able to take something out of this.